Wednesday 13 March 2013

If you’re in a relationship, can you have supper with a member of the opposite sex who’s single?

Last week I posted a question after the radio station I listen to in the morning asked it.

Here was their question for today ...

If you’re in a relationship, should you be having supper with a member of the opposite sex who’s single?

On their Facebook page, it was mostly women who responded and the majority said it was inappropriate.

It sounds like they have trust issues.  Put a partner/married spouse and a single friend of the opposite sex together and something is bound to happen, they say.  If nothing had happened so far, why is it going to all of a sudden happen?!

They felt they should be brought along (one admitted she had tagged along to a supper and felt like a third wheel) or the spouse should drop these friends since they are now in a relationship (even though they'd been friends forever).

I'd have no issue if Gord wanted to have dinner with a female friend and I'm sure he'd feel the same way if I had supper with a male friend.  It would be nice if the three of us could have dinner together sometimes but people are brought together for different reasons.  If Gord had supper with a female fencing friend, I would find that really boring since it's not something I'm into so I'd rather not be there.  I'm sure it would be a more fun supper for them because they wouldn't have to worry about including me in their conversation.

Some said that having supper with an ex is a definite no-no.  There's a reason why they are no longer together and I think it's fine if they've managed to salvage a friendship and want to meet for supper.

If you don't trust your spouse/partner then it's time for you to move on. 

What do you think?


Fizzgig said...

as always its just contingent on your relationship, and the trust level. as long as the single person knows it isnt a date, what is the harm? you can still have friends!

Masshole Mommy said...

I suppose the answer would be different for each person. Everyone has their own level of trust with their partners, etc. I personally wouldn't have a problem with it, but I know LOTS of people that would.